does age matter??

for me, i think, it doesn't. i am more for growth of the mind than physical.

not that i am in such a dilemma, it just popped out of my head.

a guy classmate who is courting a girl older than him asked, "Does age really matter for girls?" i said no of course. I am supportive of his pursuit. but then, it made me think.

i, personally, as i said, am totally not against it. as long as the guy is mature enough, which is rare. accdg to some studies, guys should be older by at least 3 years to have an equal maturity with the younger girl. that is at least ha?? others must have 5 years to be as mature as the other. too bad.

i have tons of crushes who are younger than me. For one, Daniel Radcliffe.but 99% of guys i have liked are older than me.99% of my friends are older than me. Classmates i get to bond with are all older than me. They have something more to offer guys my age can't. like, confidence and experience with life. not the airy confidence but the type of confidence that he knows he can handle most of the things that may come his way. does not easily bow down to challenges. and i have this belief that if a man can't take care of his own self, what are the chances that he can take care of another person??

the popular Jerry McGuire line, "You complete me." yeah, it sounds so romantic. Touching. If a man would address me with that line, I know without a doubt, I would fall instantly into his arms. Who wouldn't? But then, what if you won't end up together at the end, someone would be incomplete once again? Isn't it better that both of you would go into a relationship full and complete already, and are there for each other to develop (instead of completing) each other...watching how each other evolved over time. Being complete means you have more to share to your partner, more of yourself to give, thus bonding you, growing in love and most importantly, in friendship. Both complete and complimenting each other.

i have nothing against immature people. i may still be one of them. i dont know. but what im driving at is the possible reason why girls usually like older guys, who are probably relatively more mature. not because we think society is basically not very comfortable with that idea (conservative people may still be hooked with what the society says) but more of the possibility of what a guy can offer in a relationship, especially if it is a serious one. if it's a fling, i don't think we do care.

but still, at the back of our minds, we want someone who can support us in times that we are tired of being tough. after all, we are still girls. a part of us is still a damsel in distress.:)